Beginning a new relationship can be very exciting, but sometimes we get so caught up in the excitement, we don’t realize the importance of setting boundaries. Whether you are just beginning a relationship, or you have been together for a while, understanding each other’s boundaries is very important. You should set boundaries based off of what makes you feel comfortable and respected in a relationship, this is a very important aspect of any healthy relationship. You and your partner should both feel comfortable being open to communicate both of your wants and limits so that you can create a healthy relationship in which you both feel trust, safety, and comfortability with each other. But what are boundaries?
Boundaries show your partner what your beliefs are what you will hold firm to what you allow and don’t allow in a relationship. A few examples of inappropriate behavior you should set boundaries against are:
- Pressure into sexual acts you’re uncomfortable with
- Criticizing appearance
- Sharing Facebook/Twitter/Instagram passwords
- Sharing phone passwords/reading text messages and emails
- Deciding how you spend your money
- Deciding what you wear
- Needing to know who you are with/what you are doing at all times
If you express your boundaries and your partner does not respect them, you should not continue engaging in a relationship with them. If your partner makes you feel as if your boundaries are not important, or refuses to meet your needs, they may be showing you signs that the relationship is headed in a bad direction. If your partner uses manipulation or guilt to try to sway your beliefs, they are not treating you with respect. A partner who truly respects you and has your best interests at heart would never demand or expect you to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable. Respect, trust, and communication are key factors in a healthy relationship, if your partner does not express these towards you and your boundaries, you are not getting what you deserve out of a relationship with that person.