Warning Signs

Early warning signs of an unhealthy relationship are hard to spot, however are very important to pay attention to. If you can spot red flags in the early stages of a relationship you can avoid falling into an unhealthy and/or abusive relationship. Here is a list of behaviors to look out for when embarking on a new relationship.

  • Extreme jealousy
  • Possesiveness
  • Controlling attitude
  • Lies & broken promises
  • Happy one minute, mad the next
  • Falls in love quickly
  • Hypercriticism
  • Guilt trips
  • Refusing to communicate
  • “It’s your fault”
  • Hostile personality
  • Constant put-downs
  • Anger when you miss their call
  • Trying to change you
  • Monitoring your phone calls/text messages
  • Isolating you from friends and family



Unhealthy Communication

Communication is a key aspect for a healthy relationship, if your partner is unable to communicate with you in a healthy way you will have difficulty maintaining a healthy relationship. These are some unhealthy communication skills that you should avoid.

  • Your partner ignores you rather than talks
  • Withholds affection because he/she is mad or hurt
  • Breaks promises
  • Brings up past events to “win” an argument
  • You are afraid to talk about your feelings during an argument
  • Feeling belittled or unimportant



Physical Abuse

Physical abuse can be shown in plenty of different ways, maybe some that you wouldn’t expect. An abusive person may act in ways that aren’t physically harming you, but showing you what they are capable of. These are signs of physical abuse.

  • Slaps
  • Punches
  • Kicks
  • Shoves
  • Driving fast or dangerously
  • Biting
  • Burning
  • Pulling hair
  • Poking
  • Breaking things
  • Throwing things at someone
  • Slamming fist into wall beside your head